What Can I Do?


Hey fam,

In light of recent events, we are keeping it short today. 

There is so much pain and suffering in our world, and much of it doesn’t make sense and is completely illogical. 


You may be asking yourself, “What can I do?” 


Here are some ways to reach out to people of color who may be struggling right now. 


  1. PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES: Can you imagine what it must be like to be afraid for your life or your children’s lives because of your skin tone? I implore you to wake up, realize your privilege and speak out in Love for those around you. This is an unfathomable evil, and we cannot continue to just say “Wow, that is just awful…” each time a person of color is affected by such blatant and systemic injustice. 
  2. HAVE THE HARD CONVERSATION: Yes, the one where you may feel incompetent. The one where you might be embarrassed because of your ignorance. Act in that humility, and ask about your friends’ experiences, what you can do to advocate, how you can begin to take action. These conversations are where much healing and education happens. If you need to ask forgiveness, DO. Move forward with a clear conscience and confidence to do what is right. 
  3. REFRAME YOUR MINDSET // LANGUAGE: Many of us can fall prey to simple jokes that seem “harmless”, but are a direct attack on the identity of a person of color. Much of our slang comes from derogatory racial slurs. Educate yourself and clean it up. 
  4. BE A SHOULDER: Sometimes people just need a place to vent, and some good ole homemade food.  Be ready to support in that way if you can. Sometimes a cup of tea will do the trick. 
  5. BE AN EDUCATOR: Educate your lighter skinned friends!! You may be in a place where you can gently tell them that the things they are saying or the way they are acting is just not okay. Be brave, and speak the Truth. 


It will take courage to speak up. It is countercultural to lovingly speak Truth. Let’s be courageous advocates for what is right, no matter the consequences. 


With love,

Coach Chloë

A white mom in an interracial marriage, with half black children. (I love my fam!)